Adventure Boss Challenge
challenge #1 go within
who am i basics
What’s your sun sign?
What’s your moon sign?
your life story in a sentence.
What areas of your life would you like to improve?
What areas of your life are you happy and content with?
What things do you crave?
What things do you fucking love?
Are you living your dreams?
What is your biggest dream?
What is stopping you from living the most exciting life of your dreams?
What things in your life excite you the most?
Why do you think you were you born?
What do you want people to say at your funeral about you?
What do you want your life to have meant?
What do you devote most of your time and energy to and why?
How often do you postpone what you really want in the now so you might be happy in the future?
What do you want to achieve from your experience with Boss Makeovers?
How will you know when you have achieved it?
What difference will other people notice in you?
Is there anyone in your life that can help support you to reach this goal?
How will you continue to grow and improve?
Emotional pain is a warning system that alerts you to false beliefs.
Without knowing that emotional pain is a sign of a false belief, most of us wrongly interpret this pain; so whenever we feel the emotional pain associated with unworthiness, the pain makes us believe the belief is true, thereby strengthening the belief and deepening the wound, and this perpetuates a cycle of emotional pain.
All emotional healing is releasing disempowering beliefs.
Self-responsibility means that you must own your unconditional worth and you must take back your power by releasing the expectation that your parents meet any of your emotional needs, and this also includes releasing the need for apology, acknowledge, or retribution.
Give to yourself what you need from your parents!
As you take responsibility for your life and your choices, you must stop seeking parental permission and emotional support, and, in fact, you don’t even need your parents to believe in you or your dreams. The same reasons your parents didn’t meet your needs in childhood are the same reasons they still don’t. So you can let them off the hook and release all expectations!
Indeed, your personal power is only as strong as your boundaries.
Boundaries are Key!
As an adult-child, it is up to you to set boundaries with your parents. Initially, it might feel uncomfortable, but, over time, strong boundaries will strengthen the relationship and allow for a deeper connection. So, to create a positive adult relationship with your parents, what boundaries do you need as an empowered adult?
Keep in mind, a boundary of respect, for example, is vague and you probably need to define the parameters of respect, so clearly and specifically spell it out in terms of communication and interaction. In all likelihood, you will need to teach your parents how to treat you, speak to you, and behave in ways that reflect respect. It’s also a good idea to invite your mom and dad to establish their boundaries and do your very best to honor them, as well.
Boundaries are set through intention but established with attention!
Effective boundaries require integrity, and this means that you must back-up every boundary with proper and consistent attention. Therefore, don’t expect your parents to automatically know when they are encroaching on a boundary. When people are used to behaving in habitual ways, it takes time to recognize new boundaries and reorganize new behavior accordingly. This means that it’s your responsibility to protect your boundaries, and, therefore, confidentially give clear feedback; tell your mom or dad when they are crossing (or about to cross) a boundary.
However, if either parent doesn’t respect your boundaries, don’t be afraid to limit interactions accordingly, but let them know why, so they have the necessary information to change their behavior. Believe it or not, most parents will eventually learn to respect boundaries, but only if you consistently enforce them first.
Are you addicted to anything?
What do you think about as soon as you wake up?
What do you do as soon as you wake up?
Describe your usual morning ritual?
What do you spend the last hour of your day normally doing?
What do you do just before bed?
How do you normally feel before you go to sleep at night?
Do you have trouble getting to sleep at night?
Do you dream at night? Please describe.
Describe your relationship with food?
Have you ever been addicted to anything?
What things do you do ritualistically every day?
Determining Self Perception
. Scale: 1 strongly disagree , 2 disagree, 3 neither agree nor disagree,
. 4 agree , 5 strongly disagree
1. I always do what I intend to
2. I like myself
3. I trust myself
4. People like me
5. People trust me
6. I disappoint myself
7. I disappoint others
8. I trust others
9. Others disappoint me
10. I believe I have the power to create positive change in my life
11. I feel comfortable while in public
12. I worry about disappointing others
13. I worry what other people think about me
14. I have trouble expressing my opinions to others
15. I sometimes detach from reality and start daydreaming
16. When I am determined to do something, it gets done
17. I am supportive of myself
18. I am lonely
19. People are supportive of me
20. I am abundant
21. I have the power to create abundance in my life
challenge #2 go without
investigate the Nature of Reality + The Science of Creation
challenge #3 Take Responsibility
Looking At My Story
As children we create stories to make sense of things to survive.
The goal, ultimately, is to enjoy your life, free and in the moment, without the need for any story at
“Reality,” writes Byron Katie, “is always kinder than the stories we tell about it.”
See Your Story
What patterns, and which moments/events were defining?
What is my negative self talk?
What are my triggers?
What stresses me out and whats behind it?
Stop the blame, change the attitude. Review your actual growing up story or stories of past loves — no embellishments. Then express gratitude even for the tough times because you made it through.
Retell your story to yourself as victim. You can’t find love because of your father. You are stingy with affection because of your mother. You always look for the wrong type of man because of your first boyfriend. Or you have a man who seems to be right, but he never listens to you.
If you retell the story without blaming someone else for your behaviour, will you still have a story to tell?
Notice the effects of stress on your story: Pressure makes us more vulnerable to negative thinking, and more likely to slip into old patterns. Lombardo suggests that the moment you notice an old story rearing its unhelpful head, ask yourself, on a scale of 1 to 10, how stressed you feel. If you’re at a level 6 or higher, put on the brakes. Stop listening to that story and do something helpful and healthy. e.g. take some deep breaths, do some pushups, go for a walk, watch a video that makes you laugh, or hug someone. Something that will dial back distress so that you can start to redefine your reality. Stand tall: Research suggests that simply changing your stance and posture can have a dramatic effect on your point of view.
Amy Cuddy, PhD, a social psychologist and professor at Harvard Business School who studies nonverbal behavior, found that by standing in a “power pose” — wide stance, broad shoulders, hands on hips — a person’s testosterone and cortisol levels can change in just two minutes. These hormones are associated with feelings of power and stress, respectively, and in her studies, high-power posers did much better than low-power posers in mock job interviews. Cuddy advises adopting a power pose for a couple of minutes prior to any stressful event. You might also try this tactic whenever an old-story reel starts playing in your head.
Breaking Old Patterns challenge
take responsibiility for your creations
Seek sustainable sources of motivation
Often, it’s negative experiences — breakups, bankruptcies, self-betrayals — that lead us to investigate our stories initially. But it turns out that positive feelings and desires provide far better fuel for lasting change.
challenge #4 beginner Meditation Challenge
Meditate for a minimum of 15 per day for 28 days. Preferably first thing in the morning. Record your experiences in the worksheet provided. Try as many different types of meditations as possible and note which ones are your personal favourites and why (everyone has their own preferred methods of meditation that work best for them). At the end of the 30 days, please share your experience with us either through private message or on social media.